Offer unconditional support and acceptance. Don’t make it worse by questioning or doubting. It may be torturous for your child to tell you what’s going on. For instance, instead of saying, “He’s controlling,” say, “I don’t like that he doesn’t let you play in your band anymore.” Instead of focusing on the partner as a person, put the emphasis on the poor actions. Speaking poorly about the partner may push your child away from you. Your child may or may not be ready to hear that his or her partner isn’t a good choice.
It takes courage for him or her to tell you what’s going on.
A happy, healthy relationship with a supportive partner is on our wish list.